When I was I was in high school, at age 14 to 16, I consider myself to have had a very different personality. I was much more introverted and self-conscious with low self esteem. Thankfully, I grew out of this stage and while this may have been because of puberty, it also may not have been as some people are unfortunately stuck in this stage of life.
I believe, and many of the people around me do too, that I am a confident and outgoing individual with goals and dreams but, I to also have moments in my life when I feel like complete sh*t about myself. In order to combat these moments and stay strong, and confident I employ these 5 tips below!
Tip #1 – Take care in your appearance
My mother always taught me to never leave the house unless looking your best self. I know it might be hard at times, especially when you just want to run down to the shops to pick up some milk, but you never know who you will run into, right? Maybe it’s that ex of yours you never thought you would see again? Regardless, you need to be practicing this because YOU want too, not because of your ex. You don’t have to take 1 hour getting ready, doing these simple things every day will have you feeling great all the time! Shower twice a day, morning and night, so you are always feeling fresh. Brush twice a day, moisturise your skin, cut your nails, shave, keep your hair tidy, iron your clothes (no creases), wear a cologne/perfume daily that you like.
Tip # 2 – Exercise
At least 3 times a week for a vigorous 25 minutes each session. I shouldn’t have to tell you this tip but I am telling you this tip! You have to do it. And it doesn’t have to be going to the gym. I get it, some people just hate the though of it. But you can implement exercise into your day in different ways. I have a friend that loves Mixed Martial Arts, one that loves Jiu Jitsu, another loves skipping, it can be anything you want! Try different things and find one that you enjoy, that can be your exercise. It not only releases endorphins and literally makes you happier but it also leaves you feeling mentally and physically good about yourself – boosting your confidence!
Tip #3 – Read/listen to things that intrigue you/that you want to learn about
If you don’t like reading, then listen to a podcast and if you are a male, then please go over to ‘The Tailored Podcast’ for some further guidance. You might be asking yourself how the hell does this even boost my confidence? Well, it does so indirectly. By learning and filling your brain with knowledge on a certain topic, you find it easier to speak about the subject in question therefore giving you the confidence to explain to, and educate, other people in your life! Being a subject matter expert always feels great, especially when others are intrigued themselves about what you are saying. If you love turtles, then dive into the world of turtles! If you love clothes, cats, whatever it is! And the next time you are in an depth conversation, find a way to bring the subject in. I am sure you will impress whoever is listening with your knowledge.
Tip #4 – Socialise
No, I do not mean scroll through Instagram and comment on memes. I mean get out there and speak to people. Practice makes perfect. If you want to have confidence then speaking to strangers is a good way to train yourself to become confident talking to others and in yourself. When I was in high school and my friends and I went out to get something to eat, I made it my mission to ask the cashier how their day was. Simple, yet so effective. Doing this over time eventually built up my confidence enough to eventually approach a girl I was interested in, and as a guy we know how scary this can be! I was rejected and hurt but I dealt with this very well. Stay tuned for a blog/podcast on dealing with rejection!
Tip #5 – Tie up loose ends in your life
This is probably the most difficult one of them all. It can involve swallowing your pride and being the bigger person, speaking to someone you haven’t in months, even years, or going through a period of deep self reflection. What I mean by ‘tying up loose ends’, I mean giving yourself closure, coming to terms with something in the past. This part can either be as simple as apologizing to someone in your life because of an argument, calling your parents, or it could be a little deeper like an internal acceptance of past failure/past mistakes. Personally, I was affected by comments people made about me in high school! It gave me a complex for the rest of my life and I kept thinking that I had something to prove to them. In reality, I just had to accept that not everyone will like who I am as a person no matter what I do. I just had to ponder over this thought for a few days and I eventually accepted it. This gave me the confidence to start this blog and a podcast! Tying up your loose ends will set you free, you will be mentally prepared and confident for the future instead of a worrying in your mind about the past.
So, what are you waiting for? Go shower and start building up that confidence within you!